Developing a secure self

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Developing a secure self

Deirdre Fay draws on 40 years of wisdom traditions and training in psychotherapy to lead people toward a compassionate secure self.

Deirdre Fay

Deirdre Fay, MSW explores the intersection of trauma, attachment, yoga and meditation, teaching “a radically positive approach to healing trauma.” She has 35 years of experience as a psychotherapist and educator exploring the practical ways transformation occurs. Deirdre’s approach is called a radically positive approach to healing trauma. Deirdre’s message resonates deeply with those who may look successful on the surface, but internally feel plagued by shame, anxiety, distress, depression – wondering why they’re stuck in repeating relational and life patterns. Her third book Becoming Safely Embodied (2021) became a best-seller before it was published.

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Developing a secure self

Deirdre Fay

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